So love btw a boy and girl finally consummates
with a beautiful relationship called marriage where vows are exchanged between the soul mates to
stay together. Its kinda troubling that my generation looks marriage as a
compromise where husband and wife have a preconceived notions to sacrifice some
of their self to please each other often
festering chaos leading to
devastation. Love which must be the pillar for the relationship suddenly loses
its relevance and weighed down by the cobweb of expectations . The couple which
looked great together before suddenly created
differences for no reason. Aneways there are lot of instances when I
look at marriage where everything becomes important except love. As the word of
God defines love so beautifully , it also says Love protects , so when I say
protects I mean Love protects relationship especially husband and wife by filtering
all the chaos created for reasons not worthy to be reasons.
I remember
of a moment
one day ; while I was commuting back to home after office at Lower
Parel. I hopped onto the train at Parel and at Matunga a very elderly couple
boarded the train who may in their late 70s/80s.
As they boarded the train the old man cornered against wall and his wife
surrounded her who looked little younger
than him. As more people flooded along the way, I was pushed aside by the old
lady until I realised I was getting pushed across the old man due to the insurmountable force of the crowd confronting me. I felt little annoyed with the old lady initially but the moment I turned around , I could
comprehend that all she was trying was to
get some space for her husband so that he would be comfortable in an uncomfortable geography where the deluge
of people fortunately save the imminent outbreak
of stampede.
The next flash was the realisation of the
elderly couple’s love for each other at that age even after having exhausted the best years of their married
life; still they depend on each other so
much so that the old lady quietly took
an odd position against the crowd in the train to keep her husband away
from the crowd. I somehow marvel at this elderly couple, who could set so many
of my inhibitions, reasoning about
marriage right and made me hope for more for
self if not less than the elderly
couple I came across. Truly speaking, I
envy them of their fidelity so evident from their concern about each other for
so many years, holding onto their vows exchanged for each other. However, some may argue that how can I be so sure about
their aforesaid commitment and all that, well the reason is that the end the
better than the beginning for every matter.So this gives me an outright
inference that they might have seen storms and breeze in their married life but
if they are dependent on each other so much at the fag end of their lives, then
their ending is going to matter more than how they have begun or tread the path
in between.
Personal
account
The elderly couple has indeed left a mark
on my treasured (for me) thoughts on relationships. So even as I continue penning my thoughts on
love ; one would obviously question that
can anyone seemingly rattle on about love without being through it. I do
admit even I was down with this terminal fever once but not long ago when I graduated from teenage. I was smitten by a
pretty girl who encroached my seat on
her way to college and I on my way to home and it happened at almost speed of
light, within few nano seconds my heart beat defied all biological rates
prescribed as normal. I have always
failed to understand : whether a girl knows even what collateral damage she
does on a guy like me who out of the blue realizes that his heart can be stolen
just like that by someone he never met before or with least familiarity. I have
always prided myself as someone who wouldn’t
let heart fall for someone at a drop of
a hat. That instantaneous feeling and ripples created in the nervous system is unthinkable and can
only be experienced. I don’t remember the formulae I crammed during my
semesters, but the events of this mysterious emotion is still afresh cornered
somewhere in mind. Even when I go back to those instances, I now understand by
the overwhelming power of love on us. Nothing can stand before this, I bet
nothing. Its easy to comprehend that even God has fallen for us despite our wickedness
towards him. Its such a simultaneous feeling of excitement and nervousness.
But it has its own pain and joy which is easily fathomed by anyone who falls
into it.
The joyful ride of around 15 mins or so
with that person who left my heart beating so loud that one would easily burst
his ear drum if used sethescope to gauge my heart beat then. Nobody knows when
someone’s heart would be stolen even
before realization and I stand witness to that. I believe we are all
subjugated to this mysterious force whose origin is beyond our understanding
and we simply stand vulnerable to it. Every experience is unique but the symptoms
and effects are the same. One of my
closest friend had never been diagnosed with this fever until
recently , he got betrothed to his better half consummating with marriage. The feeling one
goes through can’t be put into words and specially the thought of being cared by someone even sinks deeper. There are no
rules and no secret formulae for this emotion and its sanctity is tested at
every moment during interaction. I have
this curiosity to interpret this emotion of living beings in its entirety. Why
this makes a person to make his life cheap or
wage a war in an effort to get his loved
one. What does it do to a person, that the very same person who was selfish
before , caring about his interests and satisfactions now doesn't care about
himself and ready to face any test that comes his way. I could certainly say
that when your heart falls for someone, it dominates your thoughts and all you
enjoy is picturing the person tirelessly and words like concentration, focus
and priority loses its meaning then. Coming back to my friend , who was
seriously ignorant of this emotion , when I used to discuss about love , he
seemed clueless and always said it must be left as it is and there is no point
pondering over it and now being diagnosed with this fever for ever with his
better half , he opines - it can only be experienced. True…..
