Love Continued....

So love btw a boy and girl finally consummates with a beautiful relationship called marriage where  vows are exchanged between the soul mates to stay together. Its kinda troubling that my generation looks marriage as a compromise where husband and wife have a preconceived notions to sacrifice some of their self to please each other often  festering chaos  leading to devastation. Love which must be the pillar for the relationship suddenly loses its relevance and weighed down by the cobweb of expectations . The couple which looked great together before suddenly created  differences for no reason. Aneways there are lot of instances when I look at marriage where everything becomes important except love. As the word of God defines love so beautifully , it also says Love protects , so when I say protects I mean Love protects relationship especially husband and wife by filtering all the chaos created for reasons not worthy to be reasons.

I remember  of  a  moment  one day ; while I was commuting back to home after office at Lower Parel. I hopped onto the train at Parel and at Matunga a very elderly couple boarded the train who may in  their late 70s/80s. As they boarded the train the old man cornered against wall and his wife surrounded her who looked  little younger than him. As more people flooded along the way, I was pushed aside by the old lady until I realised I was getting pushed across the old man due to the insurmountable force of the crowd confronting me. I felt  little annoyed with the old lady  initially  but the moment I turned around , I could comprehend that all she was trying was to  get some space for her husband so that he would be comfortable in  an uncomfortable geography where the deluge of people fortunately save the imminent  outbreak  of  stampede.

The next flash was the realisation of the elderly couple’s love for each other at that age even after  having  exhausted the best years of their married life;  still they depend on each other so much so that the old lady quietly took  an odd position against the crowd in the train to keep her husband away from the crowd. I somehow marvel at this elderly couple, who could set so many of my  inhibitions, reasoning about marriage right and made me hope for more for  self  if not less than the elderly  couple I came across. Truly speaking, I envy them of their fidelity so evident from their concern about each other for so many years, holding onto their vows exchanged for each other. However,  some may argue that how can I be so sure about their aforesaid commitment and all that, well the reason is that the end the better than the beginning for every matter.So this gives me an outright inference that they might have seen storms and breeze in their married life but if they are dependent on each other so much at the fag end of their lives, then their ending is going to matter more than how they have begun or tread the path in between.

      Personal account

     The elderly couple has indeed left a mark on my treasured (for me) thoughts on relationships. So even as I continue penning my thoughts on love ; one would obviously question that  can anyone seemingly rattle on about love without being through it. I do admit even I was down with this terminal fever once but not long ago when  I  graduated from teenage. I was smitten by a pretty girl  who encroached my seat on her way to college and I on my way to home and it happened at almost speed of light, within few nano seconds my heart beat defied all biological rates prescribed  as normal. I have always failed to understand : whether a girl knows even what collateral damage she does on a guy like me who out of the blue realizes that his heart can be stolen just like that by someone he never met before or with least familiarity. I have always prided myself as someone who wouldn’t  let heart fall for someone at a drop of  a hat. That instantaneous feeling and ripples created  in the nervous system is unthinkable and can only be experienced. I don’t remember the formulae I crammed during my semesters, but the events of this mysterious emotion is still afresh cornered somewhere in mind. Even when I go back to those instances, I now understand by the overwhelming power of love on us. Nothing can stand before this, I bet nothing. Its easy to comprehend that even God has fallen for us despite our wickedness towards him. Its such a simultaneous feeling of excitement and nervousness. But it has its own pain and joy which is easily fathomed by anyone who falls into it.

     The joyful ride of around 15 mins or so with that person who left my heart beating so loud that one would easily burst his ear drum if used sethescope to gauge my heart beat then. Nobody knows when someone’s  heart would be stolen even before realization  and I stand witness to that. I believe we are all subjugated to this mysterious force whose origin is beyond our understanding and we simply stand vulnerable to it. Every experience is unique but the symptoms and effects are the same. One of  my closest friend had never been diagnosed with this fever  until  recently , he got betrothed to his better half  consummating with marriage. The feeling one goes through can’t be put into words and specially the thought of being cared  by someone even sinks deeper. There are no rules and no secret formulae for this emotion and its sanctity is tested at every moment during interaction.  I have this curiosity to interpret this emotion of living beings in its entirety. Why this makes a person to make his life cheap or  wage a war in an effort to get his loved  one. What does it do to a person, that the very same person who was selfish before , caring about his interests and satisfactions now doesn't care about himself and ready to face any test that comes his way. I could certainly say that when your heart falls for someone, it dominates your thoughts and all you enjoy is picturing the person tirelessly and words like concentration, focus and priority loses its meaning then. Coming back to my friend , who was seriously ignorant of this emotion , when I used to discuss about love , he seemed clueless and always said it must be left as it is and there is no point pondering over it and now being diagnosed with this fever for ever with his better half , he opines - it can only be experienced. True…..